This is the last book I purchased in a store just before the lock down. I checked the shelves not sure of what exactly I was looking for. Aware of the current situation, I thought I might as well buy a book that speaks of positive feelings, love and friendship. I stumbled into “THE FORTY RULES OF LOVE” by Elif Shafak and instantly gave up an all I had in my hand before seen this one. The cover spoke to me (I know …. never judge a book by its cover …. but who doesn’t?)


Ella Rubinstein has a husband, three teenage children, and a pleasant home. Everything that should make her confident and fulfilled. Yet there is an emptiness at the heart of Ella’s life – an emptiness once filled by love.

So when Ella reads a manuscript about the thirteenth-century Sufi poet Rumi and Shams of Tabriz, and his forty rules of life and love, her world is turned upside down. She embarks on a journey to meet the mysterious author of this work.

It is a quest infused with Sufi mysticism and verse, taking Ella and us into an exotic world where faith and love are heartbreakingly explored. . .


I thought I would finish this book I couple of days but I was so wrong. It took me over a week but not because I didn’t enjoy it but because every single word has such a strong meaning and every phrase is a lesson of love, friendship, self discovery, family, treason, acceptance and faith.

“THE FORTY RULE OF LOVE” is a book that should become an international phenomenon. The more times you read it the more beauty and wisdom you discover.

Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation. If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we haven’t loved enough…

I read of marriage from the 1240 to present times. I have noticed the similarities and learned that we love the same. Rich or poor, we fall in love just the same and we cry just the same. The lessons we learn are just the same. It is only in us to acknowledge and grow. I have learned that God is one no matter how many names he carries. Faith is one and believing and trusting are rules of every religion.

โ€œYou can study God through everything and everyone in the universe, because God is not confined in a mosque, synagogue or church. But if you are still in need of knowing exactly where his abode is, there is only one place to look for him: in the heart of a true lover”

The rules of love are within us and we only need to learn of them, feel them and surrender. Love for a parent, love for a child, a family member, friends, love towards the poor and the sinner, love towards nature … it is just LOVE. We encounter it everywhere we go and we only need to trust and take the plunge. BELIEVE. Young or old, rich or poor …. is never too late for love and happiness.

“A life without love is of no account. Don’t ask yourself what kind of love you should seek, spiritual or material, divine or mundane, Eastern or Western …. Divisions only lead to more divisions. Love has no labels, no definitions. It is what it is, pure and simple”

“Love it the water of life. And a lover is a soul of fire!”

“The Universe turns differently when fire loves water”

This book easily goes under BOOKS I WILL ALWAYS COME BACK TO category along few other incredible novels. I will re read it and probably every time with different eyes – learning more, discovering more and why not, becoming a better person through THE FORTY LESSONS OF LOVE

โ€œThis world is like a mountain.
Your echo depends on you.
If you scream good things,
the world will give it back.
If you scream bad things,
the world will give it back.
Even if someone says badly about you,
speak well about him.
Change your heart to change the world.โ€  

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